March 15, 2011

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In yesterday's post, I went on a rant about the title of a new program approved by ABC - "Good Christian Bitches". The majority of folks who follow my site over on Blog Frog said they're tired of people telling them what to watch, and advised using the remote to change the channel or turn the TV off.

I've already done that - I watch very little TV, and I'm selective about what I watch. But I'm tired of being subjected to language that used to be limited to the guys' locker room. Whether simply walking down the street, watching TV, listening to popular music, going to the movies, or surfing the internet, I find myself wincing at the constant barrage of foul language, gratuitous violence, and explicit sexual references. And if I object, I'm labeled a prude or accused of infringing on others' right to free speech.

Look at statistics taken from this news article:

The PTC [Parents Television Council] research study, released in November 2010, reveals a significant increase in both the frequency and harshness of profanity being used on prime-time television. In the past five years alone, TV profanity has increased by almost 70 percent.

The greatest increase in the use of the harshest profanities occurred during the family hour time slot of 7-8 p.m. MST.

Across all networks and prime-time hours, use of the bleeped or muted f-word increased from 11 instances total in 2005 to 276 in 2010 — a 2,409 percent increase.

Use of the bleeped f-word increased from 10 in 2005 to 111 in 2010 — 156 percent increase — across all networks during the family hour of 7-8 p.m.

Use of the bleeped s-word between 7 and 8 p.m. increased from 11 uses in 2005 to 42 in 2010 across all networks — a 281 percent jump.

Use of the bleeped or muted s-word increased from 11 in 2005 to 95 instances in 2010 across all networks — an increase of 763 percent. (This does not include CBS using a bleeped s-word in the title of its sitcom "(Bleep) My Dad Says," or NBC's use of a scripted, unbleeped s-word on the Sept. 23 episode of "30 Rock.")

There were increases in the use of anatomical and sexual references, and use of the words in reference to parts of the female anatomy increased 90 percent.

The Fox broadcast network had an increase of almost 270 percent during prime-time hours over the five-year span. Among the shows displaying more dirty language are Fox's "Hell's Kitchen," "The Cleveland Show," "Family Guy" and "American Dad," and CBS's "(Bleep) My Dad Says."

Doesn't this bother you? We've passed a host of legislation prohibiting smoking in public places to protect others from second-hand smoke. But the language that sails through the airwaves is every bit as obnoxious to me.

Some folks believe swearing is an exercise in free speech. I believe it's evidence of poor vocabulary and a complete lack of consideration and respect for others. I seriously doubt our Founding Fathers intended to unleash a constant stream of profanity when they passed the First Amendment to the Constitution.

Am I being prudish or unreasonable? What do you think?


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33 comments:

  1. I don't think you are being prudish or unreasonable. I agree with you 100% and have said the same things you are saying. I, too, have felt very alone with my feelings because I get much of the same answer that I should worry about myself and not what the rest of the country is doing.

    The best thing we can do is to raise our children to do the right thing and to share our values. If they also grow to speak out, maybe we have a chance of changing the direction this country is going in.

    I, however, was also one of the people who said I won't boycott the entire TV station. I don't believe that particular action is going to make a difference. I will, however, take action. I will email the station and tell them how I feel about the show, its concept, and the title. I believe boycotts are too passive. The TV station won't notice that I haven't tuned in and won't know why. I disagree with the boycott, not because I disagree with you and the idea, but because I believe more aggressive measures need to be taken.

    In order to make a difference in the world around us we need to be strong and be leaders. Simply sitting back and NOT speaking loud and proud will get us nowhere and will allow the disgusting behavior to continue. Keep speaking out, keep bringing this issue to light. Even if people disagree with you today they may think about it tonight and change their minds tomorrow. Never give up on what you believe just because "everyone" else disagrees. There are more people out there who agree with you than you would ever know.

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  2. Hi Sue, I think you are morally correct in your comments and why is it in our society, that view is deemed prudish as if it were wrong? Our country was founded by moral leaders and we've strayed far from their dreams of having a free moral country. I agree with you!

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  3. I agree with you. I don't like it that the main networks have gotten so much more obscene. In the past, I could avoid hearing words like that by not paying for cable. Now I'd have to stop watching TV (not a bad idea).

    I like your comparison of nonsmoking laws to the idea of prohibiting foul speech in public. I think our first amendment right is to be exercised in our homes or other places where others don't have to be subjected to words that offend them. Children aren't allowed to curse in school. Why can't profanity be outlawed in public places and on the airwaves?

    Our job as parents and mentors is so much harder these days because the idea of what's socially acceptable is changing so quickly. It's like swimming upstream.

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  4. My point is it is none of your or esp. the governments business what I watch in television. I am an adult, I am perfectly capable of changing the channel if something is offensive. Comparing smoking bans and this is ridiculous, the word bitch on TV will not kill you, second hand smoke has been proven to be harmful to your health.

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  6. I agree, hook vote with your remote.

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  8. As a teacher I can tell you firsthand how TV affects our children. On a weekly basis I hear the children I work with, ages 5-11, use inappropriate language or talk about things no child should know about. I remember the first time a 3rd grader told me he plays a video game where the goal is to "shoot cops." Just today a 2nd grader told me about a show he had watched where the main character was drunk and got into a fight with another man. This child was watching TV alone, with no adult supervision. Yes, adults are perfectly capable of changing the channel if they find something offensive, but the problem is, they often don't change the channel... instead they watch and let their children watch.
    Why would we need shows like the one you've mentioned? What value does it add to our lives? There is no benefit and there are potential harms, so it just doesn't make sense to allow this type of show.

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  9. I agree that television is no longer rated "G"! Many people prefer to stick their heads in the sand rather than stand up for what's right. Other people choose the simpler approach and choose not to have TV (we eliminated cable for a couple years when our preteens kept choosing channels that were not parent-approved). As Christians, we need to realize we live IN THE WORLD -- we're just not OF IT. And we need to stand firm IN LOVE, without judging. That's the hard part.

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  10. I personally think it is the parent's responsibility to supervise what your children are watching on TV. I don't think legislation should get involved in what people voluntarily watch on TV - that's very different from laws such as banning smoking in public where people can't control what others are doing in a shared space.

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  11. It is so depressing to think that, if things are this way now, what will my daughter who is only 8 months old be hearing when she grows up? I am already afraid with the way teenagers dress now that it will be "clothes optional" when she reaches high school!!!
    It is really hard to find programs my husband and I can watch together that don't show women half naked, offensive language and immoral behavior (i.e., affairs left and right). We both just feel saddened by today's culture and can only pray over it. And be accountable for ourselves which means only certain tv shows (thank goodness for HGTV!) and only certain websites. It is annoying that there has to be such constant control over ourselves but there are too many "distractions" out there to sway us from our faith.

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  12. When our children started begging to watch shows that were inappropriate, we threw out the TV. We didn't have another one for ten years. My youngest daughter has told me she was always happy we did that because it meant we played games and did things together after school and evenings. We did have a lot of fun.

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  13. oh, I am sooooo on your side with this one. Frustrates me to no end. It's like our society is becoming desensitized to morals. Language is one of them.
    1. I hate that my kids hear it EVERYWHERE, not just TV but in a store where a parent is yelling at their kid using foul language.
    2. I truly think swearing is the "dumb" person's way of talking. I mean, no offense to people to swear all the time, but if you'd actually translate what you're saying in a sentence it doesn't make sense.
    So you say, "F you B"
    you're actually saying "have sex you female dog."
    Does that even make sense?
    So, I am on your side. Thank you for standing up and "fighting" back for all our moral rights.

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  14. Quote:
    Across all networks and prime-time hours, use of the bleeped or muted f-word increased from 11 instances total in 2005 to 276 in 2010 — a 2,409 percent increase.

    That's just an insane stat! A 2409 % increase! Why? There should be some justification. Why the big change in the past five years? Is it the prevalence of cable TV that the networks are trying to keep up with, or something else?

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  15. Great discussion. I have to say that we do hear/say these types of words in our house. But I've always taught my kids not to use them against anyone. I am more bothered by the way they labeled the women as "bitches" and how casually everyone uses these words in our society. I think it's a back handed way of putting women down and us putting ourselves down by saying it. I also don't like when I go somewhere and people are using the language right in front of my kids. Because if it's in front of them it's being said in front of smaller children, elderly, etc. It's a clear sign of disrespect. The t.v. thing though, I'm, w/the change the channel crowd...

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  16. I hate to hear all of that foul language too.

    I hate it for my 11 grandkids.

    It is sad that school kids talk like this all of the time because their parents do...or because they hear it on TV, and see it everywhere. You see it on facebook too.

    I hate to think what comes next if this kind of language is so accepted. It just makes me so sad. The world is becoming desensitized to everything.

    As a Christian, I really hate the title of the show that ABC approved.

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  17. I don't watch TV but do hear foul language in public when I'm out. Once at a restaurant with my young son, a guy at the next table was spewing quite a bit of it. I thought he was rude because we were indoors, in close proximity and somewhat captive, though I suppose I could have asked for another table.

    But another time I overheard a gas station attendant utter a bad word and he apologized to me about it. My response was, "It's ok, I'm a grown-up." That is, I didn't have any of my kids with me, he was at work on his job, neither of us were relaxing in a restaurant, you know? The two settings and situations were very different.

    So, I guess people have different ideas of what's appropriate.

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  18. Turn it off for Lent and then see if you really want to turn it back on after Easter.

    http://platytera.blogspot.com/2009/03/tv-and-lent.html

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  19. I am following you from the blog hop. I would love a follow back :) Come join my blog hop at http://www.makobiscribe.com/2011/03/welcome-to-weekend-blog-hop.html

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  20. I agree with you completely. My comeback to people who use the dimwitted "free speech" argument to justify obscene or rough language is, "Fine. You can have all the free speech you want. But your speech is offensive to me and I am free to be offended by it."

    What's really bad about the proliferation of bad language is (1) society becomes de-sensitized to it and loses human dignity in the process; (2)it de-sensitizes society to what is sinful language and should be confessed; and (3)it makes people look really stupid because they can't seem to find an original and clean way to express themselves.

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  21. I've come to watch very little T.V. partly because of the (often necessary) foul language so many shows use. It's like they are trying to cover up for the lack of intelligent, thought-provoking programming with the use of expletives.

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  22. It's past time for believers to 'speak the truth in love." Telling someone if they don't agree, change the channel doesn't address the issue, which is: When one person is degraded, we're all degraded. This degradation is against the Dignity of the Person, which is a foundation of our Church & our Country. To speak against this degradation is a moral imperative.

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  23. " I believe it's evidence of poor vocabulary and a complete lack of consideration and respect for others. "

    I completely agree with you. It's appalling the language coming out of some of the kids mouths. I don't even like my boys in the same room as my husband when he's watching tv anymore. I myslef don't watch much tv and when I do, I make sure my boys are fast asleep.

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  24. I think it comes from such little standards of respect and consideration people have for those around them. I feel like saying this so *^&#! I get so tired of eating at resturants with my 4 small children and hearing people cuss, at stores, etc. During the labor of my 3rd child my Doc came in and said in a jokingly manner, but still quite offensive, Why the Hell haven't you had this baby! (I'm here from the blog hop:)

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  25. I think TV shows have more "expletives" on them because they are being more true to the real world. It's just how people talk in the real world.

    Words are just words, and have no power unless you give them power. The word "bitch" used to mean simply a female dog. The f word was actually once a common term for banging two items together, and the word fag in England means a cigarette. It is society that has changed the meaning of the words to suit our purposes. If people stopped using these words, new ones would just replace them and take on different meanings.

    I have never shielded my children from words, but have raised them to know they are inappropriate in everyday conversation, and were offlimits to them to use as children.

    I took the responsibility of parenting, rather than point fingers at what the rest of the world was doing wrong, I taught mine to do what's right.

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  26. HI NCSue, it's NCTracy! It's always nice to "meet" other Catholic bloggers, especially from NC. Thank you for linking this to NOBH! I am in total agreement with you on this post! I rarely watch TV now and my children are supervised at all times when TV is on. My husband and I also supervise commercials since those too can be vulgar and inappropriate, especially the ones advertising sitcoms. Have you heard of the analogy about the frog to relate to what our crazy society is doing to themselves? If you put a frog in boiling hot water it will immediately jump out, but if you put a frog in lukewarm water, it will not jump out as the water gets to boiling point and it will die. This analogy can relate to your post on TV or any issue that our society faces. Can you imagine if the shows that are on today were on even 30 years ago. Everyone would throw their TVs out the window because of the trash (frog would immediately jump out of boiling water). But what we are seeing these days is that the frog (our society) is boiling itself to death because we are being desensitized to what is being shown on TV or in our world. It starts out as lukewarm water: "oh it's not that bad, don't be so prudish and unreasonable." Then when we reach boiling point (we are almost there, I'd say), our society is going to wonder what went wrong (it's funny they ask that now and they're so blinded they go in circles not realizing how to make things better) Anyway, I hope this all makes sense. Sorry to ramble, but had to put my 2 cents in :)

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  27. Hi! Thanks for stopping by my blog...returning the Stumble.

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  28. Following from the hop. I have tweeted this outstanding post. I don't watch a lot of TV anymore (unless it's Dinosaur Train- for those of you with kids 5 and under) This is terrible and I'm happy you have brought some light to it.

    Clayton
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  29. Thanks so much for dropping by the Be-Bop-A Blog Hop! I'm a follower and I hope you'll stop by again soon! Have a great day! :)

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  30. I really appreciate the fact that you did not swear in your post. It was classy the way you did your expletive. Thanks.
    Cheers,
    Shanae
    My Blog

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  31. Just thought I'd add my voice to the rest! I am appalled at the amount of swearing that we allow here on Australian TV. When our friends from Ohio came and stayed with us last year they too were quite shocked at what they saw. Even though you are so right about the use of profanity in the US I would much rather watch TV over there than over here!

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  32. You are doing the right thing!! And we should not let this passed because this title is not just right. What if they gonna make a tv show "Good Muslim Bitches" or "Good Buddhist Bitches" etc!! I bet they will never come up with this title because they knew who are they dealing with. Now they always go to us Christians who are most often passive. We let them passed so many times trampling Christian word at their expense. The best to thing to do is boycott their shows.
    It is scary to hear people say words "go to h^%$" or this "f" or "a" words they don't know for sure what they are saying, and they don't know it affects to a kids mind and even adults.

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